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Dating Tips for Clueless Men

admin — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 04:48:36 +0000

Being mysterious and being creative are two of the best dating tips for men I can give you right off the bat. Taking a woman out to dinner and maybe a movie is the first idea men have to take a woman out on a date.

This is nice but boring, unimaginable and very predictable. Women like a mysterious men that makes their lives interesting and fun.

The ironic thing about dating tips is that the simplest social activities usually make the best dates.

Remember that women want to get to know you for who you really are and if you’re comfortable and having fun, you’re real personalities tends to come out.

You act yourself instead of trying to create some fabrication of who you are. So let’s look at the movie and a diner date theme.

The reason why this route tends to do more damage than good is that most people are completely out their element.

You are eating dinner with someone you don’t really know, trying to have a relevant conversation without any outside aids to help you.

You probably are a little nervous and she is uncomfortable because you’re uncomfortable.

Yes, you can become skilled at creating B.S. conversation and get away with it, but why would you do that when you have other alternatives.

First, before you start trying to figure out what else you can do besides going out to dinner, ask yourself what do she want to get out of the date and what do you need to get out the date.

She wants to see what you are all about.

She wants to know if:

You’re fun
Comfortable with women
Boring
Imaginative
Predictable
A gentleman or a hard-ass
A pushover
A true alpha man
A liar or cheat
You have a good social life
If you’re good in bed.

She wants to know if you are clueless with women or do you have good understanding about what women want and need.

One particular question she ants to know is if you’re a good kisser.

Women love intimacy and a man that’s knows how to kiss a woman the right way probably knows how to be intimate.

So if she wants to find out these thing out about you on the date, then what you need to happen on the date is to take her to an environment where you both can learn about each other in a natural and comfortable way.

Now, maybe some people spend all their time I bars and restaurants and they feel comfortable taking women out to eat but still this is so predictable and a turn off to women.

Dinner should be your back up plan but try to be different from all the other guys.

Think about things and places that you do and go to. If you’re a golfer, why not take your date golfing or put put golf.

Why not get her and her friends together and take them out to a field and show them how to swing a club.

Watching yourself and your friend’s look stupid doing something new is fun and cheap.

If you like cars take her to a car show and share your love with her. If you like video games why not take her to the arcade in the mall and have a day of fun playing games.

The older she is the better!

If you don’t think you have any particular talents or interest then one other thing you should try is to flatter her by taking her into her element, such as the mall.

She will be more comfortable if she is familiar with the setting of the date.

The idea is to take her to a place she likes to go and change her viewpoint of that place.

Make her view her favorite past time in a new light and make it fun.

An example, life is hard and complicated, but it is also silly, funny and predictable.

Take her to the mall and the object of the date is to find an outfit that makes your date look the funniest and get a random person to judge the final product.

You can go into any clothing store and have this competition.

This is just an example but you get the point, think of fun and unpredictable things to do and she will be more comfortable with you.

Your conversation will be natural and you will score a lot of points with her for making her life fun.

Afterward take her somewhere where you can have some quiet conversation and intimate time together like a Starbucks or bookstore.

For most of us, our child hood was the best time of our lives. How many of us said we wished we were back in school, when we didn’t have any bills or real worries.

All we cared about was having fun with our friends. Well what better date than taking them to places where you love to be and have tons of stuff to talk about.

Taking them to the places you love to be solves most of the problems with dates.

It is fun and you’re in your element, so you’re comfortable.

You know people that enjoy these things as much as you do, so therefore you know the people to introduce her to.

This is a crucial social factor to women.

They want to know who you know and how much social value you have.

If nothing else taking on this kind of date will separate you from all the other lame experiences she has had with all those predictable guys.

25 First Dates to Create Attraction

admin — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 01:47:16 +0000

Guys if you want to start having successful dates then use these dating ideas I have gathered for you.

You can change and modify them to fit your circumstance.

For most guys, getting to the dating part of the process happens so seldom that we don’t bother having an arsenal of dating ideas ready.

Well the basis of a good idea is centered on the fact that you know a lot about the place or activity that you are centering the date around.

If you know a lot about the activity then you can help her feel comfortable doing something new and if she knows a lot about the place or activity, all is the better.You have just found a similar pastime to enjoy together.

This is the perfect dating idea!

You want to do things together that will excite and get her emotions going in full swing. The more she experiences extreme emotions the more she is going to open up to you.

When you create this unique and exciting experience, she will begin to trust and look forward to spending time with you.

Show her something she as never seen or have never done and she will appreciate you for it.

Once again life is short, boring and difficult so if you can take her away from that reality for awhile, she will have an emotional bond with you from that point on.

That is why you feel a bond with people when you go on long road trips with them. You have experienced something new together and you feel closer to those people because of it.

Here are some videos about Dating Ideas:

Here are my 25 Dating Ideas to start you off with:

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1. Camping- Taking a girl and her friends out on a camping trip is an experience that most people do not get these days. People lives are so busy that they don’t think to reconnect with nature.

2. Jet Skiing- If you have a jet skies or a pair of jet skies, this is a very good opportunity to impress your date. Women love to go swimming and ride jet skies.

3. Canoe Rides- If you want to spend some time getting to know your date and want to get a good workout as well a s a nature outing, a good canoe ride is just the activity to do all that.

4. Biking or Hiking- If your date is into working out, try taking her on a bike ride in the country or a hiking trip. She will love your outgoing spirit.

5. Art Show, Tourism, Museum- Most women like art and culture, so show your artistic side and take them to a museum or art show. You might even learn something.

Dating Ideas 6-10

6. Arcade in the Mall- Do you like to play games? We all like to be a kid again so take your date to the arcade in the mall and just be kids again. She will enjoy the fact that you don’t take yourself seriously.

7. Karaoke- If you can sing then consider taking your date to karaoke night. Impress her with your love of music and seduce her into wanting to get to know you close and personal.

8. Comedy Shows- Laughter makes people to feel good about them self and relieves the pressure of everyday troubles. A comedy show will relax and the good feelings she get s from laughing will make her appreciate you on a deeper level.

9. Put Put Golf or Real Golf Lessons, Tennis Game- Sometimes the simplest games are the most fun so take you date Put Put Golfing. If you are a golfer why not show her how to hit a real golf ball. It’s not easy but it is fun and addictive.

10. Mini Race Track (Go Carts)- bring out the competitive juices out your date by racing in go carts. This is just plain fun so she will enjoy it.

Dating Ideas 11-15

11. Sports Event- if your date is into sports, look into finding a live game to take her to. Nothing brings out raw emotion than a sports fanatic. Have fun and tease her if she is an avid fan. Pretend to hate her team and watch her get competitive with you.

This is good because she stops being nervous to be around you in her defense of her team. Later those raw emotions will work to your favor!

12. Fair, Circus- Fairs and circuses are great places to take a date because of the atmosphere of fun that they have. You have games and rides to take her on, and she can be bad for a night and eat cotton candy and those carnival pies that are so good!

13. Broadway Show- Broadway is a great place to take your date because these shows tend to stir the soul with comedy, drama, suspense or tragedy.

14. Paintball- This is fun, tap into her reptile brain by hunting her down playing paintball. Don’t hurt her though!!! I shouldn’t have to tell you that but I will anyways. ?

15. Horseback Riding- If you are into horses, take your date horseback riding. Most women dream of horseback riding but have never had the opportunity to do so.

Be her fantasy guy that took her horseback riding and she will reward you for it later. Well after she stops being sore from the saddle!

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16. Rollerblading- If you want to have a laugh at myself experience with her then take her roller skating because after you both fall on butt twenty times she will know you don’t take your self too seriously. Good workout too.

17. Bars, Dinner, Movie, Clubs, Party, Strip Club or Casino- If you can’t figure anything else out the traditional outings are still there for you. Just make sure she has a good time and maybe invite her friends so she gets used to having you go out with her and her friends.

Also you need to impress her friends so the don’t destroy your relationship with her when your not around

18. Window shopping in the Mall- This is her element so she will be comfortable being in the mall. You want to have a fun and silly experience on this date. You’re not buying anything!

Your window shopping and she will associate the pleasure of shopping with her experience with you. This is a good start to a date and finish with another one of these ideas.

19. Pottery Class- For those you out there who want to get close to a woman, try taking her to a pottery class. Research what is involved in a pottery class because giving her the opportunity to create something to remember her time with you will establish trust and comfort.

Not to mention it is so different than the same old dates she goes on.

20. Dance Class- Women love to dance and they want to learn how to do the dances that take training. Also dancing is a personal activity that you get to get up close and personal with her.

You will establish trust by working together. Plus it is fun!

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21. Wine Tasting- For you wine lovers, you should take your date to a wine tasting. This is a great activity to get to learn each others taste and passions.

22. Yoga Class- Strange as it sounds taking your date to a yoga class can be a fun experience for both of you. Remember that you are trying to establish trust and comfort and yoga classes will build that for you.

23. Scavenger Hunt- If you want to something completely out the ordinary to do then have one of your friends set up a scavenger hunt for you and your date.

Working together will create a bond that will help you with your relationship. This dating idea is great when you find a woman that loves puzzles and mind teasers.

24. Gun Show or Shooting Range- If you’re into guns, why not take your date to a gun show or shoot range. All that firepower will get her blood pumping and that will loosen her up to be closer to you.

25. Boat Ride- Women love to take boat rides especially at night. There is nothing like being close to someone under the starts riding across the water.

It just touches your soul so if you have the means to take her boat riding then this will get the mood started.